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I've been chatting with a girl since January, but I can't seem to get her to commit to anything. I've taken her out on 2 movie dates but afterwards she either canceled our insisted that she's too busy to go out. I do chat with her often, but I'm unsure as to how I should proceed. She ignores my light flirting in chat. She's also a bit shy and doesn't take initiative.
What would you do in my situation? I've been too pussy to even hold her hand but I will if I ever go out with her again.
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Was there chemistry during the date? Did you make her laugh? Has she also told stuff from her life, or did you infodump her all the time? If she enjoyed it, maybe it is just the way she uses social media, ask her out again and do the next step this time. If there was no chemistry, move on.
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>>34596146
what did you even do for a date? is there an activity that you could see doing together on a regular basis? just ask her out, don't apologize for anything and make sure you are more romantic this time. if some anons suggest you wait so not to appear desperate, that is bullshit. you have a right to know where you stand. if she ghosts you or says she has no time in the next weeks, it is too late.
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>>34596128
When someone is interested in you, you will know. Doesn't seem to be the case here. Does it feel like no one is ever interested? That's how it is sometimes. Focus on literally anything else.
>>34596146
You really take women at face value? They wanna be showered with attention and will lead you on without any remorse whatsoever.
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>>34596156
We went to the movies 2 times. We do share some interests. I'd ask her out but problem is that she's going back to her home town for the summer, after her uni exams ended. I think I'll keep chatting with her and imvite her when she comes back. I don't want to seem too desperate or invested.
>>34596164
I agree with your sentiments. But even if she was interested I still think that she would just wait for me to invite her to a date, choose the activity, pay for everything, etc. She, like most women, refuses to take any initiative.
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>>34596209
If you're constantly chasing her and showing too much interest, that's unattractive for women and you might have already blew it or it's possible she was never interested in the first place. Stop being hung up about one girl. If you gave it a shot and she didn't respond, move on. If she was really interested, she would commit. It's really that simple. If you're always messaging first, always replying faster, if your messages are 70% of the conversation, it might be time to take the hint.
>I'm too busy to go out
She's letting you down easy
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>>34596128
>What would you do in my situation?
Give up and move on. If someone flakes out on one or two dates, that doesn't necessarily mean anything bad, but if it's been going on for months then it's time to move on.
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>>34596128
Bro you're just an emotional support pillow and jester for her
she's not "shy", she's simply not romantically interested in you
you should let her go; imagine the pain, when she eventually hooks up on a whim with somebody she actually likes. Protect yourself from that heartbreak man
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>>34596291
>If you're constantly chasing her and showing too much interest, that's unattractive for women
You put the cart before the horse. If a woman is interested in you, you do not have to jester. But you can, if you want it. It is simply not necessary. On the other hand, if you have to jester, you know that she is not invested in you.
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