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Im sure this wont get much sympathy here since people have much worse problems but damn how do I stop only wanting the best and nothing else
I grew up in a rich household of successful people but long story short my childhood is over and I havent been given anything materially except my education and ability to have a good career, but I'm unsatisfied because I still earn half what my dad did at my age (adjusted for inflation) I owe none of the assets my parents did at my age, and I have to live in a studio apartment to even live in the area I grew up in.
I know I can get these things, or at least I want them badly, but it takes time to build a career and assets and in the meantime im only getting older. I have a good girl who likes me and wants to marry but like, I need to have these things first before starting a family otherwise I'll just feel further behind
I know I sound like a fag but just seeing if anyone else on here has been in a similar spot. I know this pattern of thinking is unhealthy but its so deeply ingrained in me to be rich and successful that I cant settle down and be normal. I want to change, time is running out
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>>34599221
You can change your pattern of thinking. There's no such thing as thoughts that are too ingrained, because you have the ability to reverse them and begin thinking differently at any time. It's only a matter of habituation. I'd suggest reading philosophical works that run contrary to your current mindset. Something with a focus on getting away from materialism, like Stoicism or Buddhism.
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>>34599221
If you know it's wrong, stop making excuses and let go of this mindset already.
Have you seen what life is like for people who didn't get the head start that you did? Have you seen how many of those people were still able to attain a satisfactory standard of living despite those circumstances?
You're complaining about being blessed, OP. You have no real problems. I'm not trying to be a dick to you; this is the truth.
If you want to improve your circumstances, you have to put in consistent effort over time. You can't get what you want at the push of a button.
This is growing up. You need to leave your childish mindset behind.
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>>34599221
>I know this pattern of thinking is unhealthy
this is just having higher standards, it's fine as long as you aren't stealing, or telling your wife to wait longer to have kids for it, have a family, and succeed in your career also
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>>34599221
Won’t you get plenty when your parents die? Can’t you just ask for money too? Don’t really see the issue here, you’re set for life, worry more about not dying in a car accident or something stupid before you can collect inheritance.
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>>34599221
Your worries are valid so don’t put yourself down. It’s a lot harder these days to get settled and “move up” in the world than it was twenty or more years ago and it’s affecting everyone. Don’t get married or have kids until you have a home in your name and make sure everything you work for is in a prenup and never let your future wife be on the deed. Where do you live? I feel like you live in SoCal and if you do maybe I can give some advice.
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>>34599243
>Have you seen how many of those people were still able to attain a satisfactory standard of living despite those circumstances?
this question kind of misses the point since many of those people do still desire better things and a higher status than they have, and OP has admitted that he wants the best, he doesnt want to settle for satisfactory. unlike those hypothetical people, he also has a safety net and the breeding to actually achieve his goals.