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Years ago, I used to post the same topic here almost every day about losing my teenage years to sickness and how to accept it. For over a year, I kind of learned to accept it and learned to live with it, and stopped posting here, but the pain never left. I'm feeling it again pretty badly today and want some help. Long story short, my health went to shit as a young teen and I then spent the better part of a decade isolated. Missed out on the vast majority of typical teenage experiences. The fact that I can never go back and get a second chance at living that part of my life crushed me. I'm worried that I'll never be a normal person because the foundation of my life is just so abnormal. Is there anything I can do to make the pain go away of losing such an important part of life? After all these years, I still dont know how to accept it.
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>>34599850
I missed out on a ton of teenage experiences but a lot of them I really didn't want to do
I didn't want to hang out with teenagers
I never liked drinking or weed
I never liked parties
I never took part in dangerous or anti-social behavior
Go to high school, make some friends with people who have similar interests/hobbies, hang out with them, work and save up money, go to college, get a degree, make a living, and have actual freedom. Teenagers are retards, why idolize them? I'm more distraught about missing my 20s and having had no opportunities to pursue in my environment and being behind now as a result. I'm going to be at the same level as 20 year olds in my mid/late 30s at this rate but not have the same opportunities BECAUSE I'm seen as older than them. Do you know how that feels? I'm never going to be able to retire.
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>>34599850
I think it would help you a ton to understand that the depiction of youth seen in film and on social media is unrealistic. The average teenager lives a relatively boring life. They have no freedom, no money, undeveloped interests, and live paranoid of their peers judgement. Adolescence is a state of perpetual insecurity and anxiety, about the least interesting and most stifling emotions a person can feel.
We only have this conception of youth as an awesome, adventurous time because it's represented as such popular culture. But were you ask the average teenager to describe their life, I'm sure you would get many responses like "I'm bored" and "this sucks". You might not think this, because many try to present their lives as more interesting than they are, but you must remember all teenagers feel a huge pressure to misrepresent themselves so they can meet the insane standards set by mass media.
Hell, look at how retarded and forced the body language/facial expressions of the teenagers you posted are. Do these people really seem like they're having fun, or do they seem like they're trying to meet some arbitrary standard of what they've been told they ought to be? Everything about them seems to point to the second, to me.
I would even go so far as to argue adolescence is one of the LEAST interesting parts of ones life, because you lose the unique sincerity of your early childhood years, but don't yet have the freedom offered by adulthood.
TL;DR: The "typical teenage experience" is atypical. Teenagers are insecure, most probably also feel they also missed out on the mythical "typical teenage experience." You are pining after an idealized version of adolescence, peddled by mass media, that does not actually exist.
Now go off into the real world and do cool shit.
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>>34601318
Thanks anon, this made me feel a lot better. I guess I just fell for the popular culture bait harder than others, due to me not having any experience to compare it too since I was isolated. I'll go do some cool shit.