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>>34602129
It seems like he was a nice kid. His death being an unbearable pain is your way to prove your love to him. Maybe you should talk about this pain with other people, preferably to the face of intimate friends
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>>34602129
ll this to older widows who are sad about thier husband's passing, but I feel like it would be relevant to you.
Do not disrespect the honor and death of your brother by doing nothing and sitting and thinking about the past. They wouldn't want you to do that. Yes, they would want you to remember them, but they would also want you to grow and live.
Tom Quote Dale Carnegie from Chapter 11 of How to Stop Worrying and Start Living:
"Don't Saw Sawdust"
This is perhaps Carnegie’s most famous metaphor for letting go of the past. It acknowledges that what happened was real, but that spending present energy on it is futile.
The Quote: "Sawdust is already sawn! And it is the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that are over and done with, you are merely trying to saw sawdust."
We can tell that you have honored your brother, but that reliving the pain day after day is trying to "saw sawdust." The wood is already cut; your brother's chapter is closed, and it is time for you to start building something new, rather than sweeping up the dust of the past.