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>>34602648
One time I was at the grocery store and I saw this absolutely, devastatingly attractive young woman. She had huge fuckin' tits, long brown hair, and these thick lips. For days I couldn't stop thinking about her. At the time I was pretty scruffy and I thought I was gross looking... Like, I was wearing basketball shorts and an anime T-shirt and I was living in my parent's spare room. So there was absolutely NO CHANCE.
But later that week a female friend of mine got a job at that store and when I asked about that girl she was like, "Yeah, do you want me to talk to her for you?" I said sure! It isn't going to do anything but sure! My friend gave her my phone number and we started talking. Her name was Alyssa.
When I started texting back and forth with her she immediately said that she remembered me and said that she was nervous, and this is the fucking kicker. She said she was nervous because she thought that I was out of her league. I thought she meant that she was much hotter than me, but no. She meant that she thought I wouldn't be interested in her. I was absolutely floored. She started listing off all these reasons that she thought I wouldn't like her. (Self conscious she worked at a grocery, thought she was fat, had crooked teeth. She literally came up with every single reason in her own head.)
We went on a few dates and things didn't work out for us, but the idea is still there.
You don't know what stupid shit she has going on in her head about you. She might not be as out of your league as you think... Every woman I've ever fucked has been significantly hotter than me. I am an ogre-gorilla. Take it from me.
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>>34602730
That's actually a cute story Anon, thank you for sharing it with me. What happened afterwards? You said it didn't work out but was there any particular reason?
But yeah I agree, I think I did have two chances throughout my life with girls who I found really attractive but I had hair back then and now I don't unfortunately and I look sickly
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The "out of my league" mentality is best left to teenagers and people in their 20s who haven't found themselves yet.
If you feel lesser than, figure out exactly what’s causing it and fix it. Take ownership of your life instead of just wandering around mindlessly like a random clump of particles.
Ever since my late glow-up, I've had some incredible nights meeting women at social events over the past two years—all because I finally stopped jumping the gun and rejecting myself before I even tried.
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>>34602648
Every girl I ever dated was "out of my league" ESPECIALLY my wife.
I thought I was a white trash low class loser doomed to waste away in physical jobs and that she was this astonishingly beautiful, brilliant private-school-to-university girl with everything going for her and warmth that men would wage wars over.
She thought she was a plain looking, boring workaholic with overly strict parents who would scare boys away, and that I was some kind of rugged farm boy badass who could light up a room and make someone feel seen even in a crowd of people.
It's all perspective, human attraction is weird. Only way to know is to say hi and see where it goes.
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>>34603161
It is so bizarre seeing attractive people who don't think they are attractive and people who are not that attractive thinking/acting like they are. I know confidence helps men but does it matter that much for women?
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>>34603008
>You said it didn't work out but was there any particular reason?
I fucked it up and was too pushy. Like, I kept trying to do hand stuff with her within the first couple hours of the first date and she was like, "I wanna get to know you first" (I was really stupid at the time... Making awful mistake.) Eventually we did get sexually involved but she said it made her feel guilty because she was religious.
She also had this really fucked up thing about living in her sister's shadow. At one point she made this comment about how I'd probably cheat on her with her sister, which I thought was absolutely ludicrous. But how do you tell a girl that the reason you're with her is her fat ass and titties without making it obvious that it's why you're interested in her... (When you're like 22.)
She met another dude like a year later and they had kids. She became one of those people who act really "Southern" and "redneck" as their personality. So, I'm actually glad that things worked out the way they did and I hope she's had a happy life.
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>>34603175
To a point yeah, you don't want a girl to constantly ask if she looks ok or be obsessed with trying to look better and better, you need to have self respect and SOME confidence at least. Same thing goes for men though.
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>>34603092
A-Anon?
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>>34602648
You won't ever stop being attracted to beautiful women. It is a mistake to think that is achievable.
However, it is possible to make women who are "on your level" more attractive.
Chances are you have easy access and frequent exposure to images of exceptionally attractive women. This is raising your standards to an unrealistic level. Essentially, normal women aren't giving you the same dopamine hit. You need to limit your exposure to media featuring hot or even mid women. I would stop looking at anything erotic even. Porn is definitely out. Sometimes you need to go hungry before you're willing to stomach gruel, understand?
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>>34603092
>>34603363
I pursued things I was passionate about and was unapologetic about it, even if I got some side glances.
I'm genuinely into musical theater, which isn't the manliest hobby, and I also joined a band as their keyboardist.
It's just who I am. Some women are into it and some aren't. I don't worry about the ones who aren't, because it's important to me to find someone who actually supports and sees the value in what I do.