>>34603971
just do it faggot

>>34603971
Please provide more details. Tell us more about yourself. You say you’re “average” and “autistic” but also that go on dates with women that are “below your level”? What makes this woman any different and worth pursuing to you?

>>34603991
But what if it gets awkward? I ain't normal, most people don't like autistic introverts like me, she's the type who loves social media and has lots of friends. We're just not a very good fit for each other, I feel like I'd be just setting myself up for being humiliated.

>>34604000
My appearance is quite average, some girls think I'm attractive and others don't. My personality is also an issue, I can generally maintain a conversation but I'm not an extrovert that can just keep talking passionately about a bunch of stuff and is naturally charismatic. Sometimes I went out with girls that found me attractive and interesting through our online interactions but didn't like me in person, I'm pretty sure the same would happen here. Even though I really like her, I already know deep inside this is a lost cause, am I overthinking stuff?
>also that go on dates with women that are “below your level”?
I meant physically, most women I meet are at most average in appearance just like me.
>What makes this woman any different and worth pursuing to you?
She's really pretty and we share the same hobbies, she also seems very interested, but I feel like we're too different and that would be a barrier for her when we met in person, so even though I'd like to go out with her I don't wanna have to face the disappointment of being rejected IRL.

>>34603971
> Last time I did that I tried to kiss the girl
So keep it in your pants for the first date, for fuck's sake.


>>34604034
>I don't wanna have to face the disappointment of being rejected IRL.
Why the fuck are you even trying to date off an app if you self sabotage anything that happens? Practically speaking, you have nothing to lose by accepting the date, and it's actually nuts that you blew her off twice already.

>>34604046
>So keep it in your pants for the first date, for fuck's sake.
Is it not normal to kiss on the first date? I kissed every girl I went out with on the first date except for two that rejected me. I thought women liked guys who take the initiative? Should I start taking a more passive approach from now on?
>Why the fuck are you even trying to date off an app if you self sabotage anything that happens?
I have no problem going out with women, but she's on a different level than me, that's what makes me think I'll be just going to be rejected so it would just be another blow to my self-esteem which already isn't very high. But since she's insisting so much I think I'll accept it maybe, even though I'm like 90% sure it will be humiliating.

>>34603971
Le chuckle.

You need to stop overthinking and focus on sharing who you genuinely are while discovering who she is, too. Think of it like a job interview: you're interviewing them just as much as they're interviewing you.

If you reduce people's worth to their looks, it's a limiting belief that will only hurt your ability to actually bond with others.

>>34604003
>what if it gets awkward
what if it doesnt? what if you fall in love? what if you die alone?
"what if" is stupid. just do it faggot.

>>34604097
You're right, I do like her personality and we share the same hobbies, but at the same time she's a feminist and an atheist while I'm apolitical and spiritual, she's also too into social media and I dislike sharing stuff about my personal life online. This date would most likely be a disaster.

>>34604085
>Is it not normal to kiss on the first date?
Normal, I have no idea, but do you want "normal" or "good"? Because they're absolutely not the same thing.

> I thought women liked guys who take the initiative?
They do, yes. But that doesn't mean you have to move fast, as long as you explain why you're not. Otherwise, some neurotic women will assume the worst and think that unless you're trying to rip their pants off, you're not interested. So don't leave it up to guesswork. You can still take the lead, just give the reasoning behind it. Unless you actually do want to coom right away, in which case, be honest and find someone up for that.

>>34604229
you're just making up excuses not to do it because you're scared. you're definitely gonna run away and miss your chance, and you're gonna live this way for the rest of your life. enjoy