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I lived my life as a straight guy for 20 years until I developed a thing for femboys and twinks during COVID. I managed to find a cute short twink that I'm deeply in love with and plan to marry one day. tThe problem is that he's a switch. of course, I knew that from the beginning, but we were very clear about our preferences and that I'd be topping 100% of the time.Well, last month I asked him what he wanted for his birthday and he told me he wanted to fuck me at least once. It came out as a joke at first, but later he opened up and admitted that he doesn't feel like his sex life is complete if he's only bottoming and he has 'switch' needs. I felt bad, so I promised I'd try bottoming for him sometimes, starting on his birthday next week. And now I'm fucking scared and disgusted because I don't want it to happen, but I can't bring myself to deny him that. at the start of our relationship I wouldn't touch his dick and only fucked him doggy because I didn't like looking at it. over time I got used to it and now I enjoy it, but I honestly don't think I could ever bottom. he's probably been wanting this for a long time and thought I'd naturally warm up to it the same way I did with giving oral. I can probably endure doing it once, but if he gets a taste for it and starts wanting it regularly, I'm genuinely considering breaking up with him. is there any fucking way to make it feel really bad for him so he doesn't want it anymore? I've only had sex with him my whole life and it always felt good so I don't know how to make it feel bad.
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>I promised to bottom for my switch bf but now I don't want to
Genuinely hilarious scenario, but learn to use paragraphs man wtf
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>>43845568
the correct response would have been to reiterate to him what you said at the beginning, that you just aren't into it and don't want to try it at all. but now you went and got his hopes up so there's really no easy answer, if you try to ruin the experience he will realize and resent you for it. imo just say you don't want to do it and deal with it like a man.

also lol at op, a straight man, going through the same thought process that countless comphet women have had for centuries. 2026 is crazy
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Force-fem him so that he loses the desire to top, "switches" are disgusting and should be fixed.

Do NOT bottom for him.
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i can't imagine wanting to marry a guy because you're """in love""" and then immediately dumping him because you don't like getting topped. this has to be bait. no more replies from me.
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>>43845634
>imo just say you don't want to do it and deal with it like a man.
I think I missed the timing for that already, 100% if I do it now he's going to feel bad and I'd rather die than hurt his feelings. I don't think he can realize I'm trying to make it bad for him, or at least he wouldn't show it. maybe I should just rope
>>43845636
wtf is wrong with you

genuinely I don't understand why he even sees me as 'fuckable' I'm a big man that most people describe as 'scary'. I can understand why someone would want to be fucked by me but not the other way around...
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>>43845720
>genuinely I don't understand why he even sees me as 'fuckable' I'm a big man that most people describe as 'scary'. I can understand why someone would want to be fucked by me but not the other way around...

He is mentally ill and needs to be fixed via HRT
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>>43845692
I absolutely love him but I cannot live a relationship without sex.
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>>43845720
>genuinely I don't understand why he even sees me as 'fuckable' I'm a big man that most people describe as 'scary'.
Sounds hot. Lots of men would love to bend you over.
On the subject of sex. If bottoming is a hard boundary, if you feel like taking it up the ass will traumatize you, then don't do it. However, if you feel like trying wouldn't be so bad, you should buy a small to medium dildo and give it a shot when you're alone, on your own terms, before raw dogging it with a living, breathing person.
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>>43845568
>is there any fucking way to make it feel really bad for him so he doesn't want it anymore?
I'm going to cry this is too funny
>yeah hey bottoms how do I make my hole feel like shit for my bfs dick
you're just a straggot with porn addiction
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>>43845845
>me irl to those new to anal: go slow. be safe. use lots of lube. practice before
>me irl bottoming after a year of no sex: shut up, spit on my pussy, and breed me until I'm full of your cum!
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God reading even more of this is just so disgusting...

Why can't gay men be like the ones in Yaoi, ie just tops and bottoms.
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>>43846190
>Why can't the world just be black and white minus the blacks
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>>43845568
>I promised
>now I don't want to
>I don't want it to happen
Anon, don't force yourself into something with makes you uncomfortable, even if you promised it once it doesn't mean you should ignore your own consent afterwards
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>>43846190
Because it's boring as fuck, gay men are uniquely in the prime position to enjoy BOTH topping and bottoming... Can't imagine throwing that away because MUH REPURPOSED GENDER ROLES!!11!1
If your response to that is disgust then I diagnose you with internalised homophobia, or at least internalised heteronormativity.
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Just do it pussy, its actually pretty fun
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>>43845568
Scared you'll like it?

Either way it sounds like you're inexperienced with 'receiving' which means you shouldn't just dive in to getting fucked. Let him play with your ass, eventually work in some fingers. That should satisfy his switch cravings for now, especially if you lean into the whole "you're the first person I've let do this" angle. He'll probably cum himself if you tell him that.

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