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Apart from the GOTT, here are a few things you can do _today_ to make your life a little better. Keep a diary and write down every success. Some you may do as often as you please, but write down each one individually! You deserve it! Do not feel pressured to do all, but feel free to select one or two!

- prepare 1 load of laundry
- do 1 load of laundry
- read one page of a book or manga you have been putting off
- cook yourself a meal, or try learn to make a simple dish
- eat a meal
- pick up items on the floor for 5 minutes
- make your bed
- if you have a bad habit, try making it more inconvenient (putting things in hard to reach places for example)
- do the dishes for 3 minutes
- write down one thing you are grateful for (from abstract things to something like a cute image you saw)
- Clean up 1m^2 of your floor (~40x40 in)
- Open your window for 10-20 minutes
- try to exercise for 5 min (walk outdoors, walking stairs, whatever you wish)
- take out the trash
- drink a glass of water
- put one item of trash in the bin
- reach out to an online contact
(perhaps even try arrange spontaneously meeting up with an IRL contact near you!)
- BONUS: Repeat a goal to hit a milestone (1 book chapter rather than a page, the laundry pile, the floor of one room, etc)


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IRC: presently defunct afaik.
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Didn't expect sig to die on us. Don't worry everyone, I will catch up from the not yet replied to posts from last thread. But not today. I need a break.

goodnight bump

Can I pledge something to you guys

Four months
That's how much time I'm giving myself to kick out all my vices and start fixing my shit
I'm talking no more cigs, no more alcohol, no more caffeeine, no more sugar
more exercise, more fruits, more walks, more sun!

I'm tired, nonas
I just wanna be beautiful

>>42779497
fruits are sugar eat veggies slacker

>>42779512
Veggies taste like shit :(

>>42779570
nta but skill issues
there are a lot of veggie dishes that are like edible romance!

try a veggie lentil thing with a little rice (just enough to absorb the sauce), maybe a bit of halloumi for texture and things?

>>42779570
drop recipes you like so we can make recipe suggestions (warning, slow thread)

>>42779613
>>42779658
Hmmm maybe it's because we do it differently at home
I'm jungle asian so we either stir-fry our veggies or eat 'em raw

>>42779675
i mean i'm kinda weak for a stir fry but i get that i can get old...
where you from if i can ask?

>>42779512
i eat a cup of fruit a day no way they can be bad for you right?

>>42779764
nta but meh kinda high on sugar?
not really bad but sugars are the silent killer of amerikkkan scum, know what i mean?
and.. no, natural sugars don't make a difference...
fruits are good tho! fr. ngl. best shit i ever put up my pooper.

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>>42779497
I understand what you want to accomplish and why. My advice is not to stop at deciding what you want to quit, but continue on to what you’re going to do instead.

Think about where you are, what you’re doing and how you feel when you smoke or drink. Be mindful of your triggers and look for alternative ways of self-soothing, relaxing, etc.

Interrogate the circumstances that led you into your current lifestyle. Think about what you wanted from them, what you’re getting from them, and what’s missing from your life that’s motivating you to change. That’s going to help you get what you really want, not just whatever you think living clean and getting snatched is going to get you.

Don’t rely strictly on ultimatums and willpower. You’ve got to build new habits. You know what you want to stop doing, but what are you going to start doing instead? That’s what you need to figure out.

I’d be happy to offer more concrete advice later but I feel like this mindset stuff is the best place to begin.

Speaking as someone who made a few attempts at turning my life around that didn’t take.

>>42779764
they have fiber and often lots of micronutrients
if you are healthy they are good for you

>>42779903
good idea

>>42756214 #
>I can't say that it is easy, but I have people to lean on. And that helps so, so much..
I am very glad to hear you have some sort of support structure in place.

>I'm glad. I enjoy doing.. this. I like being there for people
>Sometimes, when I have done everything I can about my own issues, there is comfort in trying to affect the lives of others positively
I can understand, it is a very noble goal to strive for.

I hope this week goes well for you.
Thank you.

>>42778259
How do you all combat dread and hopelessness?

The longer I stick around the more it dawns on me, just how bleak my fucking my life really is.

It's all weighing down on me, how bad I messed up and how bad things are for me.

>>42778259
It’s been a few weeks since I’ve last done it but every time my dysphoria gets bad I just wanna cut myself. I really don’t know how to stop. The longer I just push the urge down, the worse it gets. The first week or so after, I feel a bit of relief, then it just gets worse and worse over time. How do I stop this

>>42779897
Thank you, I'll consider everything you've said
Hmmm... maybe this isn't gonna be as easy as I thought

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>>42782313
>maybe this isn't gonna be as easy as I thought
Probably not, but this reminds me of one other piece of advice: Don’t think about your self improvement journey in all or nothing terms.

Every step you take toward improving your health is a win. The more you do, the easier it will get, and the further you’ll be able to go. It’s not about never making a mistake, it’s about always trying again. It’s worse to give up trying to quit after smoking a cigarette than it is to start over on quitting tomorrow.

If you smoke less than you used to, drink less alcohol, exercise more, eat healthier, you’re better off than you started even if you haven’t completely quit smoking and drinking in four months’ time. And that will make it easier to keep changing your lifestyle for the better if you focus on what you’re doing right instead of what you’re doing wrong.

>>42782090
I just focus on short- and medium-term goals

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>>42782090
The bad guys want us miserable and afraid; we’re easier to control that way. Creativity and joy and conviction are harder for them to handle. Don’t let the bad things in this world live in your head rent free all the time. It is no feat of intellect to fret about how bad the bad shit is. It’s all too easy to give the bad stuff more credit than it deserves by worrying about it.

Somewhere close to where you live there is probably something beautiful to look at. Every day there is a sunrise and a sunset. Food hasn’t stopped tasting good or nourishing our bodies. Enjoy the beauty of this world in spite of the wickedness.

I’ve got a pretty uphill battle myself. But you can focus on what’s wrong, and how terrible it all is, or you can look for solutions. I definitely feel better trying to make the best of my circumstances than focusing on how bleak it all is.

So I guess my advice would be negativity is just one perspective, and it’s not the best way to look out for yourself. We think that being mindful of danger protects us, but that’s a survival instinct that does more harm than good when you’re worried about abstract, modern shit and not whether like a bear has stopped snooping around the base of a tree you climbed into.

I want a hug.

>>42784174
me too

>>42756214
>>42781831
>I would not have the capacity to try and mend that, subversive approaches like VERA can help but the fact that he is on the defensive to that extent suggests that there is a lot of unprocessed stuff in the background that you can't deal with for him
I understand.
I just wish he hasn't so hasty with his actions, we all want a clean break from this family and its drama.
I just don't want anybody going without their needs, at least until everyone can go their own separate ways or set up a new living arrangement.

>How would he react being asked how he feels about a subject?
I'm not too sure but I have to assume he would be upset about it, considering the last time I asked him for an answer he just assumed that I was choosing my mother's side.

The reason I asked is because he stated he 'heard' things about my mother and her new boyfriend (the one my father interrogated and pushed my mother into the arms of).
He claimed he both hears things and has people driving by our home to confirm things. I can't tell if this is all true or not.
I have to say he is incredibly insecure, to the point that his paranoia gets in the way of his relationship with us.

>>42785629
>One thing that can through people off guard is to surprise them. For example when someone starts yelling at you, to respond with concern about their reaction ("Are you okay?") rather than react to it
I could try that in my next call with him, I have to be careful with my phrasing since he's eager to call me a back stabber (despite the fact I am the on he is forced to contact the most since he's made an effort to cut things off as much as he can).

Thank you for all of the advice, I appreciate it a lot.

He listens to drama that he helped create in this town, which just makes things worse for us the most.

He claims that whatever I say or do will impact the state of our house and living arrangements:
>paraphrasing a bit, my actions will impact whether I stay with my grandparents or on the streets as he put it
I really don't get it, he keeps insisting on selling the house and so on but then he would nowhere else to go except for his rental place or his girlfriend's house.

I really, I don't know what's going on anymore with him or life in general.

i feel closer to suicide than i ever have been and i don't know what else to do. i have no one in my life. no one to talk to about it. there is no one in the entire world that cares about me. i don't know what to do. i feel completely, entirely, hopeless.

i transitioned, but im ugly and clocky and horrible looking, i went to school, but i don't know what im going to do and i don't feel like im actually working towards or accomplishing anything. ive tried making new friends, but people don't like me. they can sense the desperation on me and i don't blame them, i don't like myself either. i know that being emotionally devastated and desperate for any sliver of human connection is a terrible basis for any kind of relationship. i understand what the problem is but i don't know how to fix it. i can't see a way out. i think i'm really gonna die. i'm so scared. i can't stop crying

the lack of sleep is starting to get to me real bad

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>>42786068
What I’m heartened by is the fact that you came here looking for answers besides suicide. You’re scared there aren’t any because you can’t think of them, but you don’t need to be convinced there’s something you can’t think of.

First of all, are you seeing a psychiatrist? Are you taking an antidepressant? Because that can make it easier to start doing the things that will improve your mental health.

A key issue you seem to be dealing with is thinking that because you tried something before and didn’t like the results, there’s no point in trying again.

But transitioning isn’t as black and white as you’re describing it. If you don’t like where you’re at in your transition, keep going. Just because you’re clocky now doesn’t mean you have to stay clocky. Change your wardrobe, your hairstyle, your makeup, etc. Exercise to change your silhouette. Voice train if you haven’t. Don’t assume the things you can’t change overrule the things you can change.

It’s the same way with friends. So you put yourself out there and it didn’t work out. That’s happened to me too. But the lesson I learned is that I need to do something different, not that making friends is clearly not for me. The fact that you messed up before doesn’t mean you’re incapable of succeeding. And if you think you put people off because you’re unhappy, that’s all the more reason to take better care of yourself.

It’s easy to give up, it’s hard to keep going, but keeping on feels better.

>>42787329
>First of all, are you seeing a psychiatrist?
no. but i do have a therapist.
>Are you taking an antidepressant?
no. i refuse. im sad for a reason, im right to be sad. i dont just want to make it go away i want to make it better.

my voice is actually the only part of my transition that's gone well.

thankyou. i'm sorry. i can't even imagine getting better on my own. i feel like i need other people to be happy, but i need to be happier in order to connect with other people.

>>42787442
First of all, I’m glad you were able to see my post and I’m glad you found it helpful in some way.

>Are you taking an antidepressant?
>no. i refuse. im sad for a reason, im right to be sad
>i dont just want to make it go away i want to make it better.
Antidepressants aren’t supposed to make sadness just go away, they give you the energy to do the real work yourself. It’s not a sign of weakness to take an antidepressant. That’s a lesson I’ve had to learn the hard way myself. I went off antidepressants for a couple of years. I was doing other things and I figured I shouldn’t need them. And in hindsight that just made things harder.

>i can't even imagine getting better on my own. i feel like i need other people to be happy, but i need to be happier in order to connect with other people.

Think about it this way: Help the people who will help you by helping yourself.

>>42787329
Are the new P&S seasons any good?

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>>42789501
Yeah, I’d recommend S2. I feel like there’s more genre/style shift episodes, but there are several great ones. My bar (aside from screentime for Panty obv) was how often the show could surprise me, and that was often. And the soundtrack is great, and manages to strike a balance between sounding like the S1 soundtrack and incorporating newer trends. If you watch any of it, watch the first episode, which resolves the cliffhanger from Ep 13. Finally seeing what happened next was one of the highlights for me.

To keep this post on topic, I recently learned about ABLE Accounts, which is a type of savings account Americans collecting SSI can open and save up to $100K in. If you’re a Murrican collecting Autismbux, look into opening an ABLE account. You can do so anywhere in the US at any bank.

Here’s a website with more info:
https://www.ssa.gov/ssi/spotlights/spot-able.html

103lbs until my real life can begin

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>>42778259
Please no coomer advice to my question, HRT using transwomen responses only please.

But, im an anal virgin and worried if i ever get with a man, either i may be too tight for them or itll hurt me, so im considering ideas to train my bussy for a man. Are these things just toys/fetish/kink stuff or can they be used for anal training? Alternatively if this is stupid, is there better advice?

im higfh a bit nit much
i love you
im depresonal
iall the time
is this normal
i hate it
i have created this other self and it is me and i hete me
:(

>>42790347
I realize you’re asking a specific question, but my advice is to look for general information about anal sex, so you’re not at the mercy of gooners every time you have another question. There’s a guy on Instagram named bybobbybox who posts really frank, practical advice about anal sex.

>>42790310
How do you mean?

bump

a breakfast in bed lovingly prepared for sig

>>42778259
hi. im just passing by, i usualy just browse on co/ in the homestuck general thread. i used to hear a lot of bad things coming from 4chan, youtube videos all of that, but this thread and the anon whos helping people are really nice! thumbs up to you dud. i probably wont comeback here but dont take that as discouragement, what you are doing is awesome.

>>42795184
thank you, dear

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Does anyone have a good workout regimen that works for them? I want a nicer butt and to make my belly look less fat.

>>42790347
>>>/d/analgen and just ask without pointing out you're a tranneroid or getting upsetti, people there are world-leading experts at least when it comes to toys, and know how to do it properly (pain-free), as opposed to the gay retards in gay subreddits that are coomering about muh good pain (which I won't judge you if you're into, but that's for later coomerism)

>>42795945
anytime

>>42798591
now give us some sugar

i will die alone and worst of all bored

making friends never ends well
it either fizzes out or ends in disaster
im not human btw or asking for advice
just pointing an observation

I just think i genuinely hate myself
how do i tell this to my therapist?

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Just finished Lost Record: Bloom and Rage.
Played it with my sisters, and I partially had to go away here and there, so I didn't get all of it... Still it was really good, but being around others means you can't fully commit to the game.

I think I'll replay it some time, when I'm alone... Feels like a game where you can actually experience a proxy to a childhood/teenage years.
If I just fully commit to it, and say things I'd wanna say and so on, I think it'll be an amazing experience.

I don't know if Life is Strange would be as good. I remember the one with the brothers, it was good, but it was no "experience teenage life" type of game.

Hope they make more of those teenager simulator games.

(Holy shit these captchas are impossible)

>>42800658
yeah, the captchas are a fucking pain

>>42796646
>I want a nicer butt and to make my belly look less fat
I've got a lot of notes on that kinda stuff.

Give me a day or so and I can give you a rough program with a list of exercises you can try.
brb

>>42802212
waow

I wish I was good looking enough to be somebody's fantasy.

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>>42799231
you are my neighbour

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>>42803592
Shake it, shake, shake it (uh, oh), shake it, shake, shake it-

we have fun here in /sig/, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise

Im horribly bald and also repressing trannysim.

Also fixed my sleep schedule.
But also im back to drinking.

lifting sig up like it’s my child and smiling at it before putting it down

>>42802321
people have weirder fantasies than you think

>>42778319
All good, no need to worry.
We'll be here, keeping the fire going as long as possible.

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Good evening /sig/ I hate my body so fucking much, and I can't escape from it.
I tried going out shopping today, and it's just been a constant reminder that in every social context, I am literally just a moid. Basically, I can't really go outside without setting off the dysphoria.

If you want a great joke, try being 10+ months HRT and openly talking to your NB coworker (who's trying to start HRT) about HRT to the point of offering spare E only for them to still not realise you're not just a cis man with an endocrine issue. That's how much of a fucking moid I am.

Oh, and I can't get therapy/diagnosis/etc till June unless I pay £500 on top of the £190 I've already paid + £90 sign-up fee just to access a private service.
The only relevant update is that I was able to get an earlier FFS consult in March, and I'm able to restart laser soon, but none of that's going to fix my giant ribcage.
It's honestly getting quite hard to not start self-harming or something, like I repeatedly have the thought of "I should take a knife to myself" even though I've never cut before in my life. Whenever I have to look at my body, I just feel anguish.

Like I'm not even my own person, all my responses, way of speaking etc is hard-coded to a man, whoever I was once has just been systematically erased for maleness. I want my life back...
>>42687588
Honestly, I've tried, but I just don't think any of it helps. I'm at the point where I don't think I can really cope with just being a man anymore but my body is non-compliant with anything else.

>>42778259
Do any of you have any advice on how to hold myself more accountable?

It's becoming a recurring problem to keep myself on the straight and narrow path out of my messy life.

bump

>>42809228
thanks, babe

>>42809773
anytime

I wonder if non hrt reppers allowed to post here

>>42810769
I mean, anyone who uses this board can post here asking for advice.

It's all about self improvement anyhow.

>>42806711
I don't know if there's ever been a person who would fantasize about me, in particular.

>>42790347
Take it slow and start small, first of all.
Don't try to hurt yourself.

good (extremely early) morning bump

I wish twinks and femboys could get pregnant.

>>42813041
I wish i was a twink/femboy/tranny instead of an ugly horribly balding man

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just put makeup on for the first time since fucking new years eve lol
aint even going anywhere, it's just for a moderate self esteem boost since i'm sick of accidentally catching my horrid raw non-made-up face in mirrors. and also so i don't totally forget how to do it in case i accidentally stumble into plans somehow

>>42814025
update: have already taken it off because it looked horrible lmao
so i have to practice/relearn i guess. whoopee
positive spin to fit the aim of the thread: guess it's better to find out now than sometime/someplace where it matters how i look

hopefully other people are enjoying their sunday instead of bumping threads here

>>42812705
Thank you, have a good one.

>>42815962
I'm trying my best to.

>>42814025
bob looks tapped out mentally

>>42806923
I'm sorry things have been so rough for you, Navy.

>>42756224
^-^ ty ty! i appreciate you a lot ty <3

i've been away for a while glad to be back around here. a bunch of updates, i think this is the one i have finally locked in and started cardio as well, i'll give myself another week of cardio before adding weight training into it. starting taking magnesium which has been helping with my sleep. planning to get a fitness tracker soon, i'd love some recommendations if any of you have some <3 i know this wave of motivation is different and sustainable. i finally feel better physically and mentally. tasks aren't a constant battle with my own body and mind i do feel like doing things and going out. ofc still haven't been that social but it's okay i do kinda have a core group of friends i get to hang out with often. kinda funny but the way i finally locked in is by greening out and staring at my own nudes and realizing that everything i hate about myself is fixable. my body can be what i want it to be if i work towards it. it's still funny how that happened but hey i'm not complaining.

as always love you all /sig/mas <3 sending virtual hugs and kisses ⊂((・▽・))⊃

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>>42778259
New month, new week and new opportunities for life.
I have to be more positive and proactive.

I'll pop in again after a few more job applications.

Wishing you all the best of luck, be safe and do you best.

Good night bump

>>42821611
Good morning bump.

>>42822441
and a good morning bump to you as well

>>42778259
What are your goals for the new month, /sig/?

>>42824393
Get a damned job

>>42824399
What are you in the market for these days?

>>42825345
Anything

>>42824393
get out of the wasted-days cycle, do proper prep, and find a mortgage advisor

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I returned from my vacation, expect a BIG series of catchup posts in the coming days.
I didn't sleep at all on saturday, traveled all day on sunday, and worked today.
I hope I have the energy to post tomorrow.

>>42827157
thank you as always
hope you rest well <3