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Do girls actually browse this board and meet up with guys and then continue to pursue in-person relationships with them? Be brutally honest.
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>>34924225
>I have met up with a handful of guys
How were they?
>dated 2 long-term
Why didn't you stick with either of them?
>where I live now is full of faggots and trannies
Trust me, I can relate. It's an awful feeling.
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>>34924150
Yeah. I'm a woman (not trans) and I met up with a man I thought was my soulmate but it turns out he wanted nothing to do with me after fingering my pussy. it mindbroke me because I sincerely wanted to be with him for life.
I keep posting on soc anyway because if I found him once I can find him again
He didn't wanna be with me because of my mental disability of autism and didn't wanna "fix" me into being a functioning adult
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>>34924273
Sorry that happened. That's an awful thing to do to someone. I hope you can find someone who will stick with you. It really is hard to not contribute to the whole gender wars thing when something that frustrating happens to you, isn't it? I can understand both sides.
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Like 6ish years ago (was 25ish) met 2 girls I wans in short-term relationships with. I think both were from a SFW KIK thread. One was English, early-mid 20s. We spoke for a while, got along very well. We eventually met at hers and fucked a bunch. Later she came to mine and we fucked a bunch again. I think we had less chemistry when we actually met. Sex was good though, she was excited since I'm a decent size.
The other girl was Russian and 18. She was absolutely nuts but in an exciting and fun way. Felt like we didn't like each other as much early on but later got into each other. I went to Russia like twice and we met in Prague once. Sex was good, she was very fun. She was expectedly a bit immature, came from a rich family. One day got drunk and sucked some guy off so then we sort of broke up though we met up one more time when she came to the UK. I look fondly on that period, she was a nice girl, just not very mature. Hope she's doing well.
I feel like people now are way more reclusive/scared/mentally ill than before.
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>>34924389
you guys need to accept 99.9% of women on here will be chikn tier (or worse, cassietier) after you get past the peacocking and masking and fawning
if you want stable available women, stop looking on here and go to church while sincerely engaging with the faith
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>>34924244
>How were they?
Most of them were looking for a quick hook-up but not honest enough to be upfront about it, so no one got what they wanted.
>Why didn't you stick with either of them?
First one we were too young and immature, 2nd one we just ended up wanting different things and let it drag on for far too long. Have you met up with anyone?
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>>34924319
>I feel like people now are way more reclusive/scared/mentally ill than before.
4chan is less popular in general, meaning a higher concentration of scammers/bots these days. Plus I imagine the m:f ratio probably got worse overall, so any remotely decent women are forced to just lurk. Covid mindbreaking people probably contributed too.
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>>34924150
I know a girl on telegram, who met her boyfriend on here, flew from Spain to Sweden for him to live together. Now they have a baby and planning to get married.
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>>34926008
I just avoid femdom because there's more scammers there than anywhere and I can't trust anyone to not angle toward findom since that's been my experience every time. But i'd figure you'd have your pick of the subs here? I guess not.
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>>34924497
Fair enough.
>Have you met up with anyone?
Not from here but I'm planning on doing it for the first time around the middle of the year when she moves here for study. Been talking to her since middle of last year and it's been going really well. Fingers crossed.
>>34924950
Many such cases. Happened to me in the past with girls I knew from big social circles.
>>34924973
That's amazing if true.
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I did and it was the most bittersweet thing I think I've ever done. I met a man I love dearly. He is the smartest and most handsome man I've ever laid eyes on. He's the only person that it felt right to kiss. Our banter was so good it felt like swordfighting. He's the only person that made me stop and reassess the plan to get my tubes tied.
However, he couldn't love me back. He never wanted to make it official, so I shouldn't have been surprised. I could not in my wildest dreams be what he needed. I could not hold my emotions in like his past male lovers. Eventually it made him lose respect for me. The last time we made love he hounded me to take pregnancy tests. He didn't bother to ask what I wanted. I knew what he wanted. I realized I shouldn't love a man who is so willing to put his wants above all else. Now I know I need to get my tubes tied so I don't take anymore risks like that.
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>>34924150
Not all people are searching for a romantic relationship here. I’ve met some cool guys and would love to meet with them irl! Though not sure if we could connect well because of our age gap (different style of humor and all)
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sometimes I do just to look at the state of this gay ass board. Actually met a couple cool people a few years ago but most of you losers are uninteresting as fuck and so many of you complain about women having no personality but the vast majority of you don't either and have nothing going for you by any reasonable measure. It's such a slog having to dig through the sea of pathetic
>hey I'm a neet and i want just any breathing woman with a hole
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>40M want 18 or younger
disgusting.
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They do. We have a discord server where we had people meet up from soc to irl and it works out fine, plenty of friends made and even marriages happened here too. Come check it out
https://discord.gg/RxRbK5Az6R
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>>34924150
>Do girls actually browse this board
trannies aren't women
>and meet up with guys
no, only fags and trannies do
>and then continue to pursue in-person relationships with them?
the fags and trannies aren't mentally stable enough for any sort of relationship
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>>34924273
sybau chikn
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>>34928922
kill yourselves you desperate simp ass faggot tourists
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I dated a chick off here for 6 months. Even travelled to meet her. Anyways, long distance and the circumstances in our relationship drove me fucking crazy and made me anxious as hell. Didn’t help she was severely conflict avoidant. Anyways, I won’t get into it beyond that. Just don’t date anyone off here. I wouldn’t have dated me off here either lmao. It’ll just end in heartbreak and communication issues. Also pretty sure any chick meeting guys off here is just filling a void until something more convenient comes along. If it seems too good to be true, it eventually will be
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>>34931526
Same femanon here as before, I wish the men here actually were as desperate as you described. As I said in my post my soc ex boyfriend didn't want me because of my mental disability and acted like he had way more better dating options and acted like I was nothing.
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>>34931526
>Didn’t help she was severely conflict avoidant.
At first it sounded like we dated the same person but a bulk of people here are the same way. I'm sure the issue goes beyond gender but the amount of narcs who shrug off any issue and just fall on detachment or "I need space" rather than resolution is insane, the fact they don't expect things to eventually boil over is more insane. I genuinely resent the two people off here I met up with and dated off here. People incapable of guilt or internalization usually have a better time though
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>>34931514
>Hope it goes well
Thanks.
>but don't have high expectations.
Sigh, I know. I will never understand why girls lead me on for so long. Call me naive but I really have hope in this one, though. She seems really genuine and caring.
>Remember that most people are here for a reason.
True, but she posted in my thread not even expecting to get a boyfriend out of it. She just wanted to make friends in the country she was going to be moving to.
>I've had much better experiences meeting people irl, much healthier
Maybe so. I'm just not too sure how one would even go about doing that.
>>34931526
Well that was a depressing read.
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>>34924150
Speaking as a guy, yes I've met a few girls from here. Obviously, nothing that has stuck. But even the bad situations have been extraordinarly memorable. /soc/ isn't that much different, dynamically, from dating IRL - yeah you meet fellow Anons and you have a lot in common on that front automatically versus Normies. That's kinda why I date through things like this, I meet people I have a lot more chemistry with now and the dating pool where I live is awful.
I think all the Doomering about /soc/ comes from guys who don't have experience dating IRL anymore than on the internet. They think that repeated rejection isn't normal or something - but it is.
If I could ask anything of /soc/ it'd just be that people take rejection with more grace. Speaking as a dude on the board who has been around women who are also OldFags, the way y'all treat these women after you strike out is why it's like 8:1 M:F ratio.
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>>34932582
I unironically have a lot more of a success rate dating irl than on this board. Like dramatically higher. This board has some derangement going on with it across all genders. I think it's silly to say that isn't the case.
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>>34924325
When was the last time you tried dating IRL? It was a mined stilwater pond before. Now it's a mined stilwater pond populated by socially illiterate knee-jerk retards with no emotional regulation post-COVID.
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>>34932604
I had most success on hinge. When you're matching with people, you know what they look like, they know what you look like, they live near you, and on top of that, you both know what you're getting into when you match and agree to meeting up if you made your intentions clear. Means hook ups and dating are a lot simpler than the bullshit on here where you're going in blind and having to play games with people who half the time just want attention and validation like... Lmao.
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>>34924424
I dunno, I've met a few good ones but we just weren't compatible. Then again my last actual committed long-term girf here cheated on me with hung transfems. I knew she cheated on me but it took someone else having the same experience to know that was who she cheated on me with.
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>>34924150
Over the course of 4 years I’ve added and been added by nearly 1000 anons. Out of them, I’ve found only 2 men to be highly compatible with me, but both connections have struggled to continue due to the long distance. I’d say it’s possible to find a guy you like from here as a woman but it’s definitely rare. I’ve tried dating apps but the type of guys I like are mentally ill and are most likely found on this site.
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>>34924950
People don't know how to be honest and just say
>Hey, I met someone else.
>I'm not comfortable yet meeting up.
>We have some real conflicts in terms of compatibility so I don't think it was gonna work
Sometimes people gotta realize also that the mutual attraction sometimes just dies on the vine or isn't there.
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>>34925017
I cannot honestly imagine just meeting a girl up as a grown-ass man to finger her. What're we, teenagers?
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>>34932589
Probably depends on where you are. Dating where I live is pretty awful for someone like me. As I've aged and had a lot of experience with relationships I've stopped settling for people and, maybe unfortnuately, I get along with Anon women more than any Normie.
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Another femanon here to repeat what these other girls have said too. I’ve met over a dozen guys on here (even flew across the world), and every boyfriend I have had has been from soc. Honestly, I don’t go out of my way here to find romance, preferably we like each other as friends first. It is definitely doable to find a girlfriend from here my fellow anons. Anyways if you are from central europe drop your tag.
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Most posts on here are ignoring location as a factor. If you don't live in a US coastal area you don't have many options to begin with.
I live in central EU and only got to seriously discuss meeting up with a girl from here once. Nothing came of it though, which is to be expected, but that was an opportunity I won't get again anytime soon.
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>>34932784
Divine luck I guess.
m1ntt3
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>>34932800
This is hilarious. Come here my child.
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>>34924150
I met my ex on 4chan, not on /soc/ but on /r9k/
I moved countries for him and we were together for almost 4 years
I haven't met anyone else from 4chan since
I'd be up to meeting some girl friends maybe
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real woman. and yes? kinda? i had someone i would've met up with irl but the relationship wasn't going anywhere. i've also posted in threads seeking in-person stuff (platonic or romantic) but haven't really gotten much out of it.
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>>34932050
Yeah man, I got too anxious with the circumstances, and also had unmet needs. (Sexting was fading away and it started feeling like some affectionate platonic relationship). Made me really suspect she was cheating on me, even though she was talking to me all the time. Will never fully know. Long distance is just retarded even if her and I got along really great for like 90% of that relationship. It ran its course, and she did me dirty with how it played out
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From what I've read on here and experience it seems like no matter if they're 19 or 30 women are incapable of actually just telling you straight up something isn't working so they waste literal weeks of your time on intermittent communication until you, as the man, have to take initiative which is what should be happening and what is basically biologically destined to happen but we've kind of all been told that is not and should not be the case for the last like 20-30 years of education in the west. Basically if you're a dumb broad reading this just tell the guy you're half-ghosting it's time to move on. You are a grown adult. I know you're a woman and that's kind of like being a grown child but by definition you are a grown adult so please act like one. Thank you
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>>34931202
is a good example of this. But that's probably like a 18 year old or something I know there are women here in their late 20s and early 30s still acting like this and it's genuinely pathetic and needs to be called out more.
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>>34932784
Consider my curiosity piqued.
30/M from Central Europe
soraumi64 on Discord
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>>34932709
>I’ve added and been added by nearly 1000 anons. Out of them, I’ve found only 2 men to be highly compatible with me
How does anyone expect decent men to stick around here when the odds are this bad? That's got to be even worse than any dating apps. What makes the women here even worse than normal ones?
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>>34932912
>Long distance is just retarded even if her and I got along really great for like 90% of that relationship
Weird, because my anecdotal experience is no less than like 5 of my personal friends met someone online with huge distances between them and they're all soulmates. Granted, none of them met on 4chan, but I don't think the distances involved is really a problem past like 2010
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i've met up with people from /cgl/, /vg/ and /b/ at conventions before, cool chats and hanging out but never anything serious
i met my longest tenured girlfriend because she had an /a/ meme as her laptop background in college
/soc/ has so far been unfruitful
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Despite having been a daily 4chan user since the dinosaurs were around, I was always too nervous to post here looking for friends because of the er, track record, women typically have on this board.
Fast forward after I finally bit the bullet and went looking for frens, I have the most amazing irl friends I could ever ask for. I had to wade through a few requests who'd go onto ridicule me for *actually* not wanting to have sex but it was well worth it, and I hope every nonna who sees this can have the same luck :)
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>>34933691
They're not, that's just the reality of the sexual marketplace.
Fucking Zoomers who missed out on OG RedPill, I stg.
Women have a far easier time getting laid than men, that's the paradoxical reality. So the ratios are always going to be skewed, they generally don't need apps to find sex but they do use them for ego-boosting and attention.
But in my experience the women aren't the only problem, lots of 4channers with swinging dicks unsurprisingly aren't the greatest at talking to women. We do get girls out here a lot but retards run them off. I feel like I get a lot of play out here and one of the easiest topics to get a woman to open up about is getting them to tell me horror stories about dudes they have met off of here.
Also, really, the big fix would be men collectivizing for their bros and raising the standards societally for a woman to be acceptable. We actually hold all the cards, we just don't hold each other accountable and take control.
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in my honest opinion soc isn't the right the choice, at least not if you're looking for mentally sane people. like 90% of the 4channers on this board are perverts and i don't have the time to look for the exceptions.
it honestly sucks because i'm autistic and have sociopathic tendencies (harmless), so i've always had problems making friends irl.
i'd say the only relatively safe options are the sfw discord threads.
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>>34924150
Yeah, but the one time I did, and I actually let myself trust someone from here, it ended worse than anything I could have ever imagined. My advice: vet him for a while because mentally ill moids will fuck you over. The 4chan moid may be interesting and unlike any moids you meet irl, but can they really be mentally well enough to form a long-term relationship with? I don't think so.
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>>34945378
Yeah, that's why I posted that advice. To not date mentally ill moids from the chans who will lie to you, fuck you over, and not feel an ounce of guilt for it.
>>34945366
Lied about his history, cheating on me, was verbally abusive, and disordered. After we broke up, he accused me of abuse and assault. Every day with him left me feeling like shit. I had the whole BPD run-around package.
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>>34933220
This realization that women literally act the same no matter what age they are finally pushed me to start fucking 18 and 20 year olds. I don't care if I'm a "pedo" for it, they're all the same age mentally
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>>34946025
I'd ask a more specific question because this hits a lil too close to a past experience i had on here but idk if i wanna open that can of worms. lmao. in case you might be the person I think you are, I hope you're in a better place now, u deserve peace :)
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>>34946025
The same thing happened to me too. Dated a guy from here after being friends for a long time. We were together many years (online to irl relationship). At first I thought he had depression and anxiety nothing too serious but he become more unhinged and cruel the longer we were together and left me for the woman he cheated on me with. He accused me of sexually assaulting him after he left me even though he was the one who was always pushy and coercive about sex. I got the whole BPD package as well - emotional/verbal abuse, lying, cheating, gaslighting, raging, discard then smear campaign. People with these cluster b disorders bring misery to anyone they associate with. Sorry you went through something similar.
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>>34924150
Yes, but it's rare. Also you have to be good looking enough, even here. I've hit it off with multiple women from here, but get ghosted once they know what I look like. Looks are king if you're a guy, especially in any form of online dating.
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It seems like a fever dream, but I once sent a random dick pic to someone requesting. I started a chat and they willingly engaged with it.
They turned out to be a beautiful, normal, hot (like, absolutely smoking hot) Russian girl in her 20s who had left and gone to Western Europe around the start of the Russia-Ukraine war.
We chatted, sexted, gooned together, and spoke online for a year or so until we could finally meet. When we did, she was everything I could have asked for.
But our lives were way too different to meet in the middle, and neither of us were in a space to be able to make those differences.
I kinda wish I was lying, and I kinda wish I had worked a bit harder, but you know how it is with LDRs - small cracks can make huge fissures. Idk where she is now.
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>>34945337
>The 4chan moid may be interesting and unlike any moids you meet irl, but can they really be mentally well enough to form a long-term relationship with? I don't think so.
This applies to the foids too then? Or do you give them the pass.
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>>34946069
I'm 47 and haven't dated older than 22 in a whole lotta years. Shame they never last long, age gap is really difficult with being hated by everyone and all, but they're fun...
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Sort of? I met a guy through a soc discord server. I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time but we really hit it off, and started dming each other occasionally. Mostly about life stuff or music. Casual. I knew he liked me but I wasn’t outwardly reciprocating… At first, but I fell for him. Before I knew it we were up until 6am on the phone. After a few months he got me plane tickets… and so I stayed with him for a few days. Cried in his bed before he took me back to the airport lol. We are madly in love. I’m going back up to see him soon :)
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1000? 1 out of 1000 to the power of 1000 maybe
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so drop contact then
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>>34924150
soc helped me develop an irl friendship with a fella going on 2 years now. im waiting for him to ask me out because it would be a resounding yes, but bro is way out of my league. we hung out last month.
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>>34957429
Stop waiting for him to ask you out, go and ask him out you fucking retard. Waiting for him to ask you out is waiting for another girl to catch his attention. Just lay your cards out and tell him what you want. He’ll probably be so flattered that even if he hadn’t thought of you like that, he’ll still say yes. I will never understand why women wait for a man they like to ask them out. Like you could be getting what you want but you’re waiting around to pursue it for probably the most arbitrary reasons? Un-fuckin-real. Don’t come back here until you’ve asked him out and you have an answer one way or another.
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>>34958504
why do you try to convince a woman with reason? you know as well as i do that doesn't work. ever. she'll just keep doing what the funny chemicals in her body tell her. and the pussy tingles that serve as her moral compass. it can't be helped.
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>>34958504
lemme ask him out, get rejected, and ruin a two-year friendship!! alternatively, lemme ask him out, start dating him, and negatively affect his life :)). have you ever heard of nuance? he's younger than me, smarter than me, and has his whole future to focus on. why the hell would i push a relationship onto him and risk hurting his growth as an individual? im self aware enough to know that im mentally ill and shouldnt push that onto others. but if he wants to pursue me, id assume at that point he knew how stupid it was n id accept.
>>34958530
dont try to convince a woman with reason, try to convince her by being a whiny loveless chud online. youre doing great sweaty
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>>34958646
you kidding? any man with experience with women looks down on them in terms of their nature more than any incel. it's the clueless guys in the middle that'll idolize women and they keep falling flat on their face for it.
but you can only think in terms of pussy as currency and reduce yourself to that. that's standard lmao
and what a neurotic mess that drivel is, with a dozen phony post-rationalizations. just sack up and take what you want you ridiculous person
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>>34959874
Most men on here just reek of desperation and degeneracy with no idea on how to actually interact with women because they see them as an object that's simultaneously above and beneath them that they have to guess the hidden phrases for to get access to pussy.
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>>34959986
>Most men on here just reek of desperation and degeneracy with no idea on how to actually interact with women because they see them as an object that's simultaneously above and beneath them that they have to guess the hidden phrases for to get access to pussy.
foid projection 101. You view men as objects. Semi loser men you use to build harems. You lead them on, use them for some quick validation and attention, refusing to commit to a single person.
You also project cheating on to others while cheating yourselves.
If the guy isnt a chad you automatically think that you're superior to him and have the right to be entertained by him