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I've been going to the same therapist for 13 years (70% of my life). It helped me with a lot of stuff, but lately I don't think it's helping me anymore, we don't really have any goals there, or if we have, that therapist isn't really helping.
For at least 8 months I've been going there and didn't have much to say. Today I made the therapist talk about her self and she seemed interested in answering my questions, and by contrast I noticed (or at least thought) she isn't very interested in our sessions.
The problem is that because I've been going there for so long I feel attached and am afraid of quitting it. It's almost as if I share my life with that person and that room. "Share" in the meaning that I lived my life with her, it's that the sense. And I decided that I will quit soon, but I don't want to quit and then cry in the last session. Like, I imagined myself entering in the session and announcing that that session would be the last one. I'm sure my eyes would get watery when I say this and I would cry in the middle of the session, but I'm very afraid of that happening, I would feel ashamed. What can I do to go through the last session without crying?
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>>34433906
you guys don't have goals because she knows you're not willing or cut out to make the necessary change in your life to have a plan for intervention as she's being paid as a therapist not as a parent who is responsible for your well being aka she's there to listen to your problems and legally diagnose you
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>>34433906
>I've been going to the same therapist for 13 years (70% of my life).
Dude what the fuck? What even is your goal? Do you want to be "fixed" or are you really just paying a premium to vent to some idiot with a bachelors who clearly hasn't done anything to ACTUALLY help you?
Anyway, if you're afraid to cry during therapy then you need to realize that this anon is right >>34433925
You were scammed. She used you for 13 years and if you can't even be brave enough to show real emotions after all that time then you need to ask for a charge back or something. You were screwed.
Now with that hard truth out of the way, there is nothing you can do to prevent how you will feel. You will just feel how you feel and there's nothing you can do to prevent that. The best thing you can do is just accept that you will react the way you will. Much like getting a shot. You're afraid of the needle. There's nothing you can really do to stop you from feeling afraid of it. You just need to accept that it's coming. All you can do is be brave. You cannot feel brave unless you're afraid.
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>>34433932
I think it won't make any difference if I continue or stop to go there, so I don't think it will be any big transition. Furthermore I've been going to another therapist to specifically treat OCD and perhaps I can just start using him to treat other things than OCD.
>>34433938
I think it helped me a lot and my mother thinks the same, but probably not after a certain point and I just couldn't notice that. I agree that now it's like paying to vent and it's awful.
As for the second part of your post, thank you, I guess you are right, I have to accept it coming and be brave. Thanks.
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>>34433906
>I'm very afraid of that happening, I would feel ashamed.
Nah man, there's absolutely nothing wrong with crying in there. You were there for 13 years for chrissakes, it'd be weird NOT to be attached to your therapist and that place. Even most friendships don't last that long.
That place is for expressing your inner thoughts and feelings, so do what you feel like you must in that regard. When I went I often cried like a baby most of the time, it's normal stuff in that context, since you're facing a lot of emotions and shit.
Also, no problem in quitting it, of course. If you feel like you don't have anything else to say, then you don't need it at that time.
You can go back if you feel like you're in need of guidance again, but there's no need to go if you aren't really needing it.