how old are you? ill do charity for a bit

>>34295346
lets go, 24 wbu

>>34295388
fuck great, at least im not babysitting a 30yo
im 21 :3
drop your dc or whatever you want pretty much :p

>>34294631
if you cannot write a post about you without insulting some large groups of people that might be why you are having a hard time making friends

I’ve had a stutter since I was a kid and I was actually a social kid I liked meeting people and being around others but my confidence dropped a lot because I stuttered so much .being someone who wants to be social but can’t really express themselves honestly sucks. life can always get worse. a shit childhood really affects your social life in a big way. I think talking to a therapist could really help

>>34294631
You are ashamed of who you are, stop doing that
>is it normal if i enjoy being a shut in?
yes
>idk why since i have been a kid i always struggled with opening up and speaking my mind
I can't tell you what is causing that and I am sorry you feel that way
>without actually doing anything to change my situation
You are mature to try to take responsibility for your own problems
TLDR op imo you have a problem where there is too big of a mismatch between who you are and who you want to be
The healthy alternative to being like this is keeping the good parts (self awareness and desire to develop as a person) and discarding the bad parts:
-comparing yourself to other people (feeling like you are in "competition" against everyone you know)
-thinking there is something wrong with you (if you are an introvert that is okay and you probably just need a few more opportunities to interact with random people)

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>>34294631
>how do i even make friends

Depends on how you define "friends".
Are you looking for people with similar interests to hang out with, or do you want people you can trust and truly care about you?
The former is easy, while the latter takes time and a lot of effort to build.

>>34295986
Troon jitsu is crazy

Talk with people, ask them about their interests, share your interests talk about both of those, make smalltalk in general. It helps helps if you have the same mindset.
Also there are books specifically for that.
One is "How to win friends and influence people". I never read that book but I really should.
Another is "The like switch". I did read that, and while I can't say if it's anything like How to win friends for sure, I do know for a fact it's very effective for making so people like you, without you necessarily liking them.

>>34295395
>drop your dc
are u the one who replied to me earlier if so okay
can i give you a fake discord account and then switch to my main one? cause i dont wanna leak it here

>>34295397
>If you cannot write a post about you without insulting some large groups of people that might be why you are having a hard time making friends
desu yeah but i mentioned that im weird, i dont know which habits/traits i should keep or discard of
so mb


>>34295741
>I’ve had a stutter since I was a kid and I was actually a social kid
yeah i noticed that stuff like this really fucking shape us for our life, im sorry for you
my advice for you and my myself is to look for healthy and safe relations to increase our confidence

someone told me that in some other thread on here and it really works, find good friends of the same sex ig

not to be nosey but can i ask why hadnt u tried to work on ur stuttering? i think it can be fixed and get better over time

>>34295770
>You are ashamed of who you are, stop doing that
nuh uh i cant, you telling me to stop wont help. i have to take actionsssss for a starter i should try to speak up my mind even if it meant hurting someone else, and after some time i would learn how to proceed so im sorry if i said (nuh uh i cant you telling me to stop wont help)
i really struggle with disagreeing cause most relations i have been in has been transactional so i feel like if i was very subservient u would like me but thats wrong

>I can't tell you what is causing that and I am sorry you feel that way
family issues i think ....and this fueled bullying and low self esteem so it fucked me

>You are mature to try to take responsibility for your own problems
thank you anon ily


>>34295986
>Are you looking for people with similar interests to hang out with, or do you want people you can trust and truly care about you?
i-iwant b-both, fuck u

>>34296253
wanna watch a movie together? ...btw i know what else i suck at, i really hate disagreeing and bothering someone so i dont take any chance trying to connect with someone cause im afraid of rejection and being ridiculed
But both are things that i should be okay with if i want to grow uppp thats why im stuck in my room talking on 4chan

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>>34294631
lots of stuff in ur post kek
>i cant seem to be able to articulate myself, i am usually faking interactions
you can't make friends if you're not even going to be yourself. who would want to befriend a fake version of a person? if you're politically incorrect or something, just surround yourself with people that aren't SJWs and hurr durr be yourself, don't filter ;_; just say what comes to ur mind bang on
>love lying since it helps my ''status''
what do you mean? makes you look better?
what if people find out the truth?
>is it normal if i enjoy being a shut in
yes lol, society just thinks people should go out every day which doesn't have to be the case
>crave the normal healthy life
i feel this way too, i am usually ok being alone but sometimes i have the urge to talk to others
>always struggled with opening up and speaking my mind
probably some kind of anxiety response or.. whatever? are you an insecure person? i was kind of like this when my self esteem was extremely low
you seem like you have autism

>>34298260
>cause most relations i have been in has been transactional so i feel like if i was very subservient u would like me but thats wrong
I feel you there, I can't complain too much about how I was raised but I basically also ended up learning that obedience is the best way to get what I want which is obviously untrue

>>34298795
>don't filter ;_; just say what comes to ur mind bang on
fuck u ur fucking loser, im sorry

>what if people find out the truth?
it bothers them for some time but they eventually get over it

>society just thinks people should go out every day
i love going out everyday :(

> i have the urge to talk to others
l-loser, joking im sorry can we be friends?..please?

>probably some kind of anxiety response or.
ur right anon..
>are you an insecure person?
yes

>i was kind of like this when my self esteem
same here
ur an asshole for the autsim comment
i dont think im autistic just extremely fucked up emotionally since i am very unliked by everyone im around which magnifies the worst traits in me
its a retarded loophole i cant escape unless i feel some "unconditional" love

>>34298810
>basically also ended up learning that obedience is the best way to get what I want which is obviously untrue
YESSSSS
THANK YOU FOR AGREEING WITH ME I FEEL SMARTER AND better already

do u mind if i asked how old are you ? and also how is ur life going atm if u dont mind sharing

>>34298824
>how old are you
24
>how is ur life going atm
It's decent, NEETing at uni and made a few friends over the years + I do sports nowadays
I used to have a lot more problems in my head but they went away for the most part
Posting here is a my worst vice, I would feel better if I locked in instead of posting the most reddit-like board on 4chan

bunp

>>34298263
>wanna watch a movie together?
I'm watching Spinal Tap right now
>...btw i know what else i suck at, i really hate disagreeing and bothering someone so i dont take any chance trying to connect with someone cause im afraid of rejection and being ridiculed
Good for you to know you have those problems. All I can reccomended in this moment is to try and keep failing until you learn. I'm pretty sure you can get desentivized to all of those things you mentioned.

>>34302806
oh okay did u finish it? well if not we can binge anyways i will drop my discord if anyone wanted to add

>>34298862
>I do sports nowadays
which ones

>I would feel better if I locked in instead of posting the most reddit-like board on 4chan
true, do u have social media accounts? not tryna like doxx but was curious if you had a life outside of 4chan and anonymous posting