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Met a girl at work and not sure if she is into me or just being nice 02/27/26(Fri)21:25:18 No.34296381
Met a girl at work and not sure if she is into me or just being nice 02/27/26(Fri)21:25:18 No.34296381
Met a girl at work and not sure if she is into me or just being nice Anonymous 02/27/26(Fri)21:25:18 No.34296381 [Reply]▶
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We are both in accounting and started at the same time. Right when we first saw each other, we locked eyes. I caught her looking at me a few times afterwards. Didn’t think much of it until she started coming up to my work desk, asking me how I am doing, small talk & telling me office drama. Very smiley and bubbly. Still, she’s highly extroverted, and I see her chitchatting with some of the interns a lot, most of them female but some male. She came up to me to ask if I scheduled for the meeting with the supervisor, and I told her no, and she’s like, “don’t worry! It’s not that intimidating… let me tell you how mine went so that you’re prepared.” Again, I cannot say with confirmation that this is interest since I see her going around and striking convos with other people too. I’m the only guy her age on our team who is full-time (everyone else is an intern or a woman).
What is to make of this? I am pretty certain she is single as she said that she has a female friend who comes to her apartment and told me how she is making food for her because we had to work late that night
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>>34296388
Of course one can never be certain but this is about as clear of a "probably, yes" you can hope for. Find something interesting to do for this weekend and when she says bye today tell her you're going and ask if she wants to come along (or if it's too late for today, next time you see her)
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>>34296401
I posted this elsewhere, and everyone just said don’t shit where you eat… I don’t want to misread the situation and make it awkward at work. I think I am going to hold off from directly asking her out, focusing instead on my work, but continuing to be a friendly coworker. I know she said she is very interested in doing volunteering with our company (our company goes to the beach to organize cleanups and things like that), so I may just tag myself onto one of those to see how it goes
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>>34296416
It's a complex problem. On the one hand, yes it can definitely make a mess. If you're dating it complicates your work relationship and if it doesn't work out it makes things awkward and will be very distracting.
On the other hand, this could be your future wife and the mother of your kids and a great life together. If you are just so-so on her then maybe wait and see what happens, but if you are willing to risk the ultimate possibility that you might have to quit the job, I would shoot your shot. Life is short, jobs are temporary. But going to the volunteering events with her is definitely a good plan, you can feel things out more slowly and let them evolve naturally, which reduces the odds of awkward outcomes
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>>34296920
I am almost always able to discern whether a girl is interested, but I am 50-50 on this.
>>34297740
How would I go about doing this? I feel like it makes better sense to maybe keep things slow, see if this gets escalated, etc. I am not desperate to find a gf or anything, so it’s not a huge deal to me if she likes me or not, but I would think, based on our ages, she is looking for something serious
>>34296444
Right. With where I am now, I am not in a state of urgency to find someone, so I think I will just let it play out naturally