>>34297063
>I don't have the energy for anything yet I know doing nothing will fuck me up even worse
that's good you're aware of that, at least
>What the fuck do I do now
instead of "finding things to do" you could try to pick something more specific, or look for an outlet for the desolation/frustration/whatever
you could also try to think of some shit which inspired you as a child & try doing that, it might be enough to get you immersed

ultimately, you'll have to force yourself to do things, but once you get a snowball rolling it'll take less effort & you'll have more energy

try not to let the pain ruin the good memories, btw
also don't immediately get into a new relationship to fill the hole

world is kinda fucked up right now, obviously this isn't how things are supposed to be, but that's probably the best advice

if you have any very close friends/family to talk with, you probably should, if you think it might help
it's something a lot of people lack though

It's your first time, OP. It's ok to take a few weeks to come to terms it all and let the unfamiliar emotions process and pass.
They're a part of you now like it or not.
Take care of yourself but don't beat yourself up if you're less motivated than usual after all it's all new to you
You can analyze it later, just stay fed and rest for now. Take walks with no particular destination in mind. You'll see in time that youre far from irreparable

>>34297063
go have some sex

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>>34299415
Thanks brothers.
I don't have a support system or anything because that all came with her lol
But for now I've decided to do the things I've always wanted to do with her, but without her, just to get myself out there: rock climbing, Ice skating, just visiting the places I've always wanted to go to but we just never had the chance

Do you think this is a good idea?

some other guy is cumming between her legs right now

>>34299453
There's no worse feeling in the world than trying to score some rebound pussy because you feel bad about a breakup and then failing. And if you are an average guy most of your attempts to get pussy will fail anyway, to say nothing of the stink of desperation most guys have post-breakup.
The second worst feeling is post-nut clarity after porking some absolutely foul whalebeast because you just "had to get some pussy bro"
>>34297063
Whatever you do, don't go actively hunting rebounds unless you had something lined up before the breakup or you're a gigachad (you're not).
Still flirt with girls if you can, sure, and don't turn anyone you like down if they offer, but you're not going to have the right mindset if you try to hope back into the dating pool right away.
My advice is to just keep swimming. I got dumped after a relationship of over 8 years. It's been over two years since the breakup and I'm only just returning back to who I was before hand, let alone being able to get better. Don't hate on yourself, and most importantly don't get upset at the feelings you might be having. Don't feel bad for feeling bad. Go through the motions of life and also don't beat yourself up because you're not turning into a gym beast, or getting laid left and right, or not shooting up in your career. That's her echo making you feel bad.

>>34300647
Women merely need to spread their legs and a line forms. It's a totally different mode of existence, you might as well tell OP that birds are spreading their wings and flying right now and he can't.

>>34297063
buy GLASS bottles of coke. or pepsi, whatever drink you like.
down them all in one go. EVERY one of them.
smash the leftover bottles somewhere. against eachother, against the drawer where you kept your pictures of her, some dingy underpass in the bronx, w/e.
report back with emotional status.

>>34297063 >>34300486
For the time being just visiting places is enough, eat some good food and enjoy the scenery! Rock climbing is dangerous because your emotion is not okay currently. Skating... there are people, you need some solitude to cool down the mind. Goodluck and you can do it.

>>34297063
Do what nobody else has said here and cry like a bitch as much as you want. Cut yourself some slack and let the grief consume you. You're going to have to process the pain regardless so if you try to distract yourself you will only drag out the process.

t. left by girl of my dreams a month ago in an incredibly fucked up way and still miserable

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>>34301438
>still miserable
yeah do what this guy says