And to anyone that has been in similar situations as me.It is not over

'Incapability' is such an understated concept in your forwardings

>>34297946
Don swing too far in the opposite direction. You are overcorrecting and you are very close to a breakthrough. not some immediate snap that will change how you see things, but You have begun to come to terms with losing dependence on other people which is good. Becoming an isolated hermit incapable of social interaction is bad. It is easy to cope and say well if it's bad/not easy for me I'm better off without it. Humans are social animals and everything about your existence relies on other people. To say nobody is worth the time severely deprives your future self of opportunity. The longer you sink into this mindset the harder it is to get out of it. Right now it is a choice. Keep it that way. Social skills are like a muscle. You don't need to be working it every single day or pushing yourself to extreme discomfort, but if you don't use it at all you will wither to a point you can't do shit.

and also, no 4chan isn't entirely what outer internet makes it out to be, but make no mistake it is a shithole that fuels delusion and in light of recent events likely a massive psyop at this point. If you could see most the people you talk to on here face to face you would likely feel very differently about saying this place is not so bad

>>34297995
As in?
>>34297995
>Don't swing too far in the opposite direction
I know.
>To say nobody is worth the time severely deprives your future self of opportunity
In what context?
>But make no mistake it is a shithole that fuels delusion
Ofcoarse, i'm not sugarcoating what 4chan is.

>>34297946
You are making one quintessential mistake in your logic.

You aren't happier without friends. You are happier without your CURRENT friends.

You will still need to find a contact with new people who share your sentiments, or else you will end up like a sad virgin neet like the rest of this pathetic board.

Switching the setting has its merit. But unreasonable self-isolation is only path to mental suicide.

>>34298011
>I know
you don't. You just made a long post about giving up on having friends entirely
>In what context?
Nobody does anything sitting at home in their room. everything happens outside in the real world with other people. That doesn't have to be your everything but you need your own internal life alone plus external interaction providing movement in your life and opportunities. Better jobs, new partners, fun activities, developing your social skills if only for novelty and acquiring resources. A support network for the day you come to need it. You don't genuinely want to pay someone every time you need help with anything for the rest of your life and when you look back on your entire life one day everything you ever did was alone. But probably more importantly the internal growth and gain from what you can provide to others. Mattering in the world is important for your own self image. Even in small ways but one day you will find that what you can do for others is more important than what they can do for you, and that provides rewards

>>34298055
>you don't. you just made a long post about giving up on having friends entirely.
When did I say entirely?
>Nobody does anything sitting at home in their room. Everything happens outside in the real world with other people
You're just proving to me that you don't know what you're talking about. I am able to enjoy different activities by myself.
>>34298053
>Current(Previous) Friends
You're right. I honestly didn't really like some of the people I was around for different reasons including what i've mentioned in post.

>>34298064
you are coping super hard so anything I say will just be rejected to protect your ego. Good luck with your self imposed isolation

>>34298069
So I must have a big network of friends like everyone else?

>>34298073
no.
>you need your own internal life alone plus external interaction providing movement in your life and opportunities
most people don't have a big network. you have small shifting interactions over time and some of those will become friends. You don't get the chance for small interactions if you become a recluse. It sounds like you trying with a bitchy friendship group which is incredibly common

>>34298080
My bad. Most of the people i've surrounded myself with were horrible.

>>34298087
and you've removed yourself which is good. don't let negative experiences push you into black and white thinking. The world is full of shitty people but to take that as everyone is shitty is delusional. There is as much good in the world as bad it's just harder to find and takes longer. If you're genuinely comfortable alone the you are actually in a great position because it allows you to explore options and easily cut off what don't work. Just be self aware, it's easy to blame everyone else. It may well be entirely their fault but consider why you let other people treat you that way in the first place or you'll just repeat the same cycle

>>34298092
I do genuinely enjoy solitude. I've been working on my self-awareness significantly since i've quit social media(despite being judged for doing that).

>>34297946
It sounds like you’re mistaking social media for friendships. Social media is not real.

>>34298530
When I did quit social media it showed who actually were my friends.(Spoiler:No friends)
Because they only wanted to talk about themselves
>Pic
MILF?

>>34298053
This. This right here. I'm not saying you need a million friends, but you'll have one or two people in your life who are excellent for you.

Don't lose them. Do your best to keep close the ones who make you feel seen and cared for. But cut the rest if they drain you. There's balance in all things.

>>34299516
OP here
Absolutely agree with you on that.
Although there is a problem with that: My concern is that we'd depend on each other emotionally.

My entire friend group thought I was dead. I'm posting from beyond the grave.

>>34299689
Then make sure your best friend is your significant other and that she understands your need for space well. The right person for you will understand you.

>>34300388
OP here
What if im not interested in having a romantic relationship?
I should of elaborated more on
>My concern is that we'd depend on each other emotionally.
Assuming that since someone would be my only friend & possibly vice versa, it would be more likelier for us to rely on eachother for support more than normal people who'd have more friends.

>>34297946
Yeah, friends are for underage people

OP here
>>34304167
Ok, then what is for of age people?
>>34299733
Lmao

>>34297946
this is true as fuck, i cut off literally all of my faggot loser friends and my life has been substantially better

i literally don't need anybody outside of my family and wife

>>34297946
Having friends = dealing with retarded social dynamics and trying to accomodate people who (99% of the time) are not likeminded individuals in relation to you

in other words, having a lot of friends is for people with low standards and little self-respect

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>>34298053
The quality of people is not high. You have already been exposed to the peak, not to mention, exposed to the median. The vast majority is far far worse.

To find the break-even point, I simply lowered the standards to find it.

Humans as a standard have far to many dealbreaking features.

No one reaches my bare minimum requirements:
•Keep your word
•Negotiate in fidelity
•Be on time
•Confer when there is an error beyond your control
•Make good faith adjustment when you can't confer
•Make up for errors

People consistently, lie, waste time, waste resources, cheat, intentionaly hurt thier "friends" (for entertainment?). They like drama.

You can't just keep rolling the dice to find better people, that in of itself is dehumanizing. Not to mention the probability you are basing this on is not a singular event, it's continuous, so it doesn't operate the way you need it to. They can't simply can't maintain it.

Then you tell me I must expend my time and resources endlessly. You are just trying to kill me by 1000 cuts. You put me into positions where I must return the trauma just to make ends meet. You are evil.

>>34304273
Lmao. It's especially when you notice them do things like i've mentioned above in my OP
>>34304281
For friends, i'd only like 1-2 friends, i'm content with myself. I had some acquaintances in the past though.