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>>34300628
>Is there any way to properly cope with my age

Age is nothing but a number.
Just stay fit and take care of your skin, no one will give a damn about your age.

>>34300634
You posted that spammed faggot so IDK if you're being serious or not but that's definitely not true especially if you live in America.

Set aside time every day to pray, read the Scriptures and meditate on what read. Make a point to express thanks to God for everything you have already received.

Success in this life and success as a Christian are not only different, but are often opposed to each other - you probably don't need much of a reminder on just how many of the saints were canonized for martyrdom. It's far too easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others or worrying about things outside of your control - far harder to stop, but once you learn how to do so, you should find a lot more peace of mind and won't need to worry about 'coping'.

As far as love goes, certainly you can pray for such but at some point you're going to have to take action.

>>34300628
Middle age begins at 40-45, you dingus pingus.

>>34300668
I could be doing a lot more, true, but I do actually pray almost every day in the morning, and I do thank God every day for what I have and mostly ask for blessings to the few people I do have in my life still. I also go to Mass most Sundays (I know it should be every Sunday but I'm just being honest).
It just feels so empty. I don't get joy or peace out of participating with God anymore. If I'm being honest I see Him in an adversarial light sometimes. It's over the pettiest shit sometimes too, like a project at work going badly, or the fact that I live in a ghetto neighborhood right now that's filled with people that make life harder for me with their cruel stupidity.
Some days I just don't see the point in even being faithful anymore. I've only reverted back to (attempting) to be a devout Catholic a few years ago after that breakup, and I can't say it's really brought me any sense of peace
>you probably don't need much of a reminder on just how many of the saints were canonized for martyrdom
No I don't, but I can't help but dwell on the fucked-up nature of that. How God's greatest servants ended up being skinned alive or burned or tortured in even more gruesome ways. What kind of God really wants that for His children, paradise waiting on the other side or not?
>worrying about things outside of your control
There's a point though where things outside of my control are causing me harm.
>As far as love goes, certainly you can pray for such but at some point you're going to have to take action.
I can't say I've even met a woman in the past year or so since my last relationship, that seriously interested me as a potential wife.

Sorry for basically just going "nuh-uh" to all your points, but you can see the despair I have right now.

>>34300716
It's astounding to me how much the modern world copes with age
>30 is the new 20!
>40 is the new 30!
Dante Alighieri set his self-insert in the Divine Comedy at 35
>In the middle of the journey of our life I came to myself within a dark wood where the straight way was lost.
Sure you can live to 80, 90, etc, but more likely than not you're going to be only partially mobile, dealing with crippling diseases. Unless you're working out and living like Jack LaLanne (and honestly what a miserable life - exercising for hours and hours every day and eating nothing but egg whites and lettuce) you're probably going to kick the bucket between 70 and 80. So yeah, mid to late 30s is middle age and you're coping if you think it's not.

>>34300717
It's rarely easy. Despair is one of the ways the devil convinces the faithful to fall away. You can't always rely upon your feelings - you have to decide "I'm going to follow Christ no matter what" and then do it. "We walk by faith, not by sight"; we, in our limited understanding in this life, do not and will never have all the answers we're wanting, but it's on us to press forward regardless.

I'm going to suggest you find a couple of people who are willing to mentor you; if nothing else, you should be able to schedule something with your priest. One anonymous 4chan poster won't be sufficient to provide you with the counsel and guidance you need.

>>34300628
I’ve lived much of my life the same way, and even now, at thirty-something, some days I still feel like a teenager stuck in an adult body. You spelled out a couple of major roadblocks I wrestled with for years before finding my own way through. They may not be your exact answers, but hopefully they help.

>Is there any way to properly cope with my age vs my circumstances, some way of giving my life meaning?
This is the central struggle every man faces, the hunger for purpose, for feeling needed, for mattering. Purpose is elusive, you can know you need it, yet still have no idea where to look.
The truth is, purpose isn’t found; it’s built. You create it yourself, and the main ingredient is suffering. Most men get this backwards and wait for happiness or inspiration to strike first. It doesn’t work that way. Purpose isn’t about living to feel good, it’s about choosing something worth bleeding for. Fathers bleed for their family, entrepreneurs for their vision, leaders and warriors for legacy. Real meaning comes from taking your existing pain and channeling it toward something bigger than yourself.

>The world and economy are so chaotic thanks to the shitheads in charge that it’s probably going to derail everything.

The second obstacle is you’re looking at the world too much. When a man lacks personal purpose, he often looks outward, casting a giant net over all of reality’s problems in hopes of feeling useful. The result is always the same, you try to fix everything and end up fixing nothing. Purpose starts small, close, and personal. The chaos “out there” becomes a distraction when you haven’t yet built something worth protecting right here.

>>34300829
>entrepreneurs for their vision
>The chaos “out there” becomes a distraction when you haven’t yet built something worth protecting right here
This is the whole reason I'm worried about the external circumstances.
I didn't get into it in the OP but I'm actually a cofounder of a tech startup. This isn't some software or vibe coded startup either, we're building advanced weapons and space technology for which the US government or large prime defense contractors are the only customer right now. We've already done several million but the contract money is drying up. We've got like six months of runway left with no real prospects for making cash right now because selling to Uncle Sam is a multi-year long process requiring making many enthusiastic connections along the chain of command.
>Purpose isn’t about living to feel good, it’s about choosing something worth bleeding for.
That's the big problem right now. It should be enough. I FEEL like it should be enough. This is my quest in life, right? This is literally my childhood dream on the cusp of being realized. So why do I drink so much? Why does trying to talk to God not bring me joy?

I feel like I need to clarify for anyone else trying to help, the reason why I mention my career is that I'm lucky enough to have been pursuing my "dream" of starting a business and working on advanced technology. The only downside is what we're working on can pretty much only be sold to governments at this stage. And right now, the US government seems committed to making the most idiotic decisions it possibly can to the benefit of...let's say certain interests.
If this works out, the tech we're working on would be genuinely revolutionary. I'd have my name down in history for being one of the founders of the project, let alone from the way I would want to use this technology. But the day to day reality is that it's boring and thankless work that takes up 10, 12 hours of my day every day. I want to realize this dream so badly, but the dual obstacles of both needing to still develop the tech to a fully functional state, while somehow finding funding for it, make it hard to sleep at night without obliviating myself with weed and alcohol.

>>34301213
>That's the big problem right now. It should be enough. I FEEL like it should be enough. This is my quest in life, right? This is literally my childhood dream on the cusp of being realized. So why do I drink so much? Why does trying to talk to God not bring me joy?

Because some times the truth is sweet as honey, sometimes as bitter as vinegar. Some times God doesn’t reply, because the silence is the answer. God would rather you come to understand some things about yourself for yourself by yourself, so that growth is guaranteed.

I am not you, so I dont have the same emotional attachments to things like business, startups, weapons, or that sort of thing. I’m a simple man myself. What I know is this: money is dead, and weapons can’t kiss me goodnight, and governmental bodies or officials don’t care if I live or die tomorrow. So if it were me, id acknowledge that and then id remind myself why it feels so empty

>>34300634
I've never seen such a young man!

>>34300628
thats sad mate, ik this dont really helps but i hope you can get better, God bless you

>>34300628
Bump

>>34300668
>biblefagging
Insufferable, even as a christian.
Also i know you’re just a fucking liar because an actual biblefag wouldn't be on fucking 4chan.